I do plan on writing about topics pertaining to our roles on motherhood and interesting articles I come across and form some sort of discussion area on this, I am new to blogging, it’s been a great 3 weeks. Right now it’s all about shopping and great stuff to get your kids. I have a 16 month old running around our apt so I only have so much time to get stuff across and to actually sit still and type. When he’s napping I’m cleaning or cooking and I if I have time I get some blogging done.
I’ve swapped my addiction for make up and skincare for baby carriers, cloth diapers, wooden toys, organic food and anything and everything to do with baby. Have I lost myself? Who am I now?
No, I’m a mom. I love my new role and it’s a privilege that I get to stay home and raise our son. I don’t have to worry about the costs of daycare(it’s a 2-3yr waiting list!) or nannies or the type of care and attention they are giving Charlie. A few months ago city workers went on strike here in Toronto and I felt horrible for the parents and the positions they were put in because city day cares were on strike, no garbage pick up, new moms couldn’t have the public health nurse come by and help them after just giving birth because of this stupid strike. Shame on those public city workers. The fact that a public nurse couldn’t come to see if a newborn is latching properly and to check in to see how mom is handling her new role, most of Toronto I’m sure has forgotten this strike. But that’s a whole other topic.
But there are woman out there who aren’t a 100% content in their in new role as Mother, they love their children but they miss the adult interaction, the after work cocktails, lazy Sundays, carefree shopping and everything else they enjoyed before baby. I don’t blame those moms(I’m a Libra, I see both point of views all the time) they are entitled to feel that way, I see her point but I don’t agree with her. I look at motherhood differently and I enjoy my mom groups. The moms I hang out with are fun and we do hit the pub or cafe once in a while after our play dates. Why not?
Times have changed since the good ‘ol days and moms today aren’t June Cleaver, what type of mom am I or you? Do we seriously have a category and does it even matter what strangers think?
I’m the type that if I have lemons, I’ll make lemonade. I suit motherhood and I enjoy it, to be honest some adults are quite disappointing to hang out with(I have more fun with Charlie than some people I know) and I don’t miss the idle chit chat or the partying I once used to do. I still go to pubs, cafes and restaurants, it’s with my husband and our friends and yes, Charlie is with us. Mind you, it’s once in a while and it’s just to have a beverage & some food in good company. The place we go to is close to home, child friendly and the waitresses are smitten with Charlie. At 16 months he knows how to flirt. He’s already given a hug and a kiss to one of them.
I read this article on Do Children=Happiness in Red magazine and I must say I was a little stumped on the writer but she is brave for writing it. It’s a taboo topic for an article so we’ll see who comments first.
Read the article and post your thoughts and comments. Do you feel the same way as this writer does or the complete opposite?
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